Ever feel like you’ve been blown away by the winds of change? Aw, man! I sure have! At times, I have felt blown around like a rag-a-muffin. This chapter talks about change and weathering the storms that occur in everyone’s lives. There’s a time to go with the flow and a time to drop anchor and stand firm. Another good chapter, I think. What are your thoughts?
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. –Maya Angelou
We are in Day 18 of our book study for One Month to Live – Thirty Days to a No-Regrets Life, by Kerry & Chris Shook. Today’s chapter is Hurricanes – Withstanding the Winds of Change.
So, we have all endured struggles that can be compared to strong wind gusts, tornadoes and even hurricanes. Some of them tear through your life, most of which you are completely unprepared. You have to be careful in how you respond to these storms and how you allow them to change you.
You may get knocked down, go with the flow and force of the wind, or you might stand firm, refusing to move. If you do get knocked down, you still can find strength to get back up and fight. You can also run and hide, find shelter and wait out the storm. Sometimes, you have to move with the same force and flow of the wind, just to stay afloat, and other times, stand strong, unmovable, unshaken, which can be a good thing or a bad thing. Like the wind damage from storms, your life can be damaged forever. You can lose everything.
One thing in life that is permanent is change. You can count on that. It is up to each one of us how we respond to that change when it presents itself. Do we allow our relationships to be blown apart by a strong wind or do we stand firm, wait out the storm and become stronger for hanging in there, together? Only you can figure out if you are strong enough to withstand the force of change, to bend with it or break. Your relationships can be strengthened by the storm, or weakened, or completely destroyed.
Yes, it takes two to have a relationship and if one is not willing to adapt to change, the other must give 200%. There will be times one is weak and the other strong. Both are supposed to give 100% each, but there will be times one cannot fight at all and that’s when your 200% must kick in, depending on how much you value the relationship, of course. No, this doesn’t always work. Sometimes, it’s just not enough to save the relationship if the other has already completely given up the fight. But you can still do your part and stand the strongest until you realize there is no reason left to fight.
The winds of change come into our lives for a reason. We must realize that everything in this life is a test. It really is. Every single conversation, thought, feeling, daydream, fight, action, reaction – every single second of your life is a test, from the minute you are born on the planet. And it’s up to you whether you pass or fail. The cool thing about that statement is that when you fail, and I promise you will, you get another chance, and another, and another. When you pass a test, you can help someone else. Good things can come from your failures, as well, if you choose to call them failures. I call them life lessons. I call them the end of one path and beginning of another. You become stronger. With each test, whether you pass or fail, if you learned a valuable lesson from the test, pass or fail, it strengthens and builds your character.
Not only can you survive with the winds of change, you can harness them to fill your sails and propel you forward. You can fight change, but you will just be wasting your time and energy. Change will happen whether you want it or not. Your stubbornness and false need of clinging to the past will only weaken you and it won’t alter the force of change, no matter how stubborn you are.
Become involved with the change rather than fighting against it. Welcome it. Life is a journey. It’s meant to be taken alive, with vigor and sometimes it’s a wild ride. Sometimes, you think the ride will kill you and others, it’s the time of your life! Embrace those changes, go with the flow, live life to the fullest and be changed, be stronger, take a deep breath and then plunge. You’ll come out stronger, more alive because of it. I know how scary, depressing and uncertain change can be, but it can also be refreshing, invigorating and necessary. Everything happens for a reason, remember. Change is a good thing. It can be, if you let it. Everything in your life is going to happen and you cannot stop it. What you can change is your reaction. What will your response be?
Hope you are making it a superb Sunday! Any thoughts on the chapter or the book, thus far? Holla! 😉 Love ya. *hug*