Sandpaper People

Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something.  – H. Jackson Brown Jr.

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you.  – John E. Southard

Today, we are reviewing OML Day 13:  Sandpaper – Smoothing The Edges.  Another incredibly inspiring chapter!

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My dear friend, Leslie A., made this. She's very creative, isn't she?

We know we should be more accepting but many people in our lives seem to make it their life’s mission to be difficult and rub us the wrong way.  Some are nearly impossible to love and get along with.  That’s human nature.  If we only had a month to live, though, wouldn’t we make more of an effort to look beyond those surface issues that grate on our nerves?  To improve those relationships, we must change the way we look at these people.

Sandpaper is useful when it comes to woodworking projects, but if you rub it against your skin, it’s abrasive and painful.  Many people in our lives are like sandpaper, huh?  And to how many of those people are we like sandpaper?  Hmmm . . .  That’s all part of God’s plan for our lives.  People irritate us to test our tolerance, our patience.  God doesn’t find it useful for all of us to get along with each other all the time.  We must face difficult people and challenges and struggle through life sometimes to build our character.

How do other people bug you?  The first group is like measuring tape:  they always let you know that you don’t measure up.  They are perfectionists and always judge you by their own standards of righteousness.

The second type of person is the hammer.  This guy tends to be as subtle as a freight train, pushing his agendas on others and forcing his way.  You walk on eggshells around this one, because you never know when the hammer’s comin’ down.  

Skill saw people cut others down to the quick, leaving you insulted with their sarcasm or straightforward comments.  They know just what to say and where to cut to weaken the other.

The vise grips are those that grab on to you and won’t let go.  They are the needy ones and drain every ounce of energy out of your being.  I know a few like this.  You avoid these people at all costs.  They have no clue, whatsoever, when it comes to social or relational boundaries.  Needing constant support and encouragement, they cannot stand alone. 

Grinders are those folks with the explosive personalities and you’re never quite sure when they might spontaneously combust.

Related to the grinders are the axes, those negative nellies, always griping and complaining, trying to tear down the hopes and plans of others.

Their cousins, the hatchets, take smaller chops than the axes, but hold on to past hurts and grudges for longer.  They don’t know how to “bury the hatchet.”  😉  That was me for a lonnnnng time.  I’m working on it.

Last, the putty people.  These lack a backbone.  Spineless, they agree with everything and have no voice nor opinion of their own, so you honestly never know where they stand on any given issue or even who they are, because they are too agreeable and eager to please.

We all know these people.  Where do you fit in?  What role do you take on?  In the past, I can honestly say that I’ve probably played each of those roles, except maybe for the vise grips.  I can’t remember ever been dependent on another, not that it’s better or worse than any of the other roles.

We should perhaps stop judging others and what we think their failures are and try looking in the mirror more often at our own shortcomings.  Talkin’ to me, here.  It’s easier to point out someone else’s flaws, rather than our own, isn’t it?  And when you get in the habit of doing it, it’s kind of hard to stop, right?  If you make an effort, I’ll make an effort.  😉  No really.  I’m going to get better at this, starting NOW!  I need to focus more on my own weaknesses, rather than pointing out those in other people, as if I don’t have any.  I have plenty!

Perhaps if I look at the sandpaper people in my life, try looking beneath the surface of their irritable personality, I can begin to learn how to understand and relate to them, and in turn, teach myself to be more patient and tolerant, not only of them, but of myself, as well.

Hope all o’ y’all had an awesome Tuesday.  Love you guys!  *hug*



About Carol B Sessums

Writer, Editor, Coffee Addict, Lover of Mountains. Lives to shrink the planet, one story and connection at a time.
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One Response to Sandpaper People

  1. Reblogged this on adjustingyourfocus and commented:

    An earlier post I wrote from 2011 from one of my other blogs. An oldie but a goodie. Hope you enjoy. 🙂

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